Among the mental snapshots that defined summer for me as a child were those 100-degree days at my grandparents’ house. We’d spend all day outside—playing shuffleboard, running through the sprinkler, and going boating on the river.
But some of my most cherished memories were the afternoons in my grandfather’s raspberry patch. I loved the sweet tang of Grandpa’s raspberries in all forms—in homemade raspberry jam, in a bowl with cream, in Grandma’s array of luscious pastries and desserts. But my favorite way to eat the raspberries was straight off the vine, under the hot desert sun.
My grandpa’s dementia has been creeping in over the past decade or so, and his once immaculate garden has now almost entirely surrendered to weeds and grass. There are no more army-straight rows of tomatoes or cucumbers, and his herb patch is no more than a memory. But somehow his raspberry bushes are still there—still producing fruit, still offering their ripe summer gifts.
I went to visit my grandparents over the summer, and on one 100-degree afternoon, with the desert sun smiling down on neck just the way I remembered from my childhood, I went out to the raspberry bushes with Grandpa to fill our little green baskets.
Grandpa struggles with basic tasks now, and on the way from the garage to the raspberry patch, he turned to me more than once to ask, “Now what are we supposed to be doing?”
But the moment we got to the raspberry bushes, his motor memory kicked in, and he started picking like the efficient gardener I remember. I’d finish a raspberry bush, feeling confident I’d gotten all the ripe ones, and Grandpa would come along behind me, quietly filling his basket with all the hidden berries I’d missed.
We celebrated my grandparents’ 60th anniversary while I was there, and one night at dinner, as I looked around the huge table filled with their family—all the people who wouldn’t have been possible without them—I marveled at the harvest they are reaping after more than half a century together.
I looked at Grandpa’s daughter and her two children who all share his love of singing and who grace others with that gift as well.
I looked at my cousin with the mechanically wired mind, the curiosity to take things apart and put them together again—just like Grandpa.
I looked at my brother—the leader with the servant-heart—and saw my grandpa reflected in another generation.
I looked at my sister and my cousin—the ones with the big hearts and much love for people—and felt sure Grandpa must be proud.
I looked at his daughters who have sacrificed much and loved their families well, just as their father before them has done.
And as we toasted Grandma and Grandpa with generous slices of chocolate cake, it struck me that although Grandpa isn’t able to do much sowing right now, he’s reaping a harvest of all he’s planted over these 80-plus years. All those labors of love, all the watering and tending and patience and gentle pruning—it’s paying off now in the legacy he leaves to his children, his grandchildren, and his great-grandchildren.
So thank you, Grandpa. Thank you for all your years of faithfulness. Because of you, future generations will keep reaping what you planted. I’m so grateful to be one of the shoots tended in that soil.
Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. —Galatians 6:9
Cindy VOILAND says
Such a nice tribute to Grandpa! THANKS!
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Debbie says
Your words have created such vivid pictures of your dear grandpa. What an encouragement to us all, the bountiful harvest we reap for lives well lived. Thank you.
Stephanie Rische says
Thank you, Debbie. You may not even know how many people your own reaping will touch one day.
Marilyn Kitchell says
your grandpa must cherish the love and honour you give him. what a wonderful memory letter …
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Stephanie Rische says
Thanks, Marilyn. He is such a good man, and I’m proud to know him.
maggierowe says
As a new grandma, I cannot help but hope that our Libby and any other grandchildren we might be blessed with will one day hold such precious memories of their time with us. Stephanie, you have honored your grandfather with these wise and loving words!
Stephanie Rische says
Yes, Maggie! I know Libby is already being blessed by the legacy she’s been given.
Nancy Rische says
It is amazing how our lives touch so many others in ways that we can never imagine. Wonderful post!
Stephanie Rische says
Thanks, Nancy! The same thing is true of Daniel’s grandparents. How blessed we are.